Good Boundaries and Goodbyes: Loving Others Without Losing the Best of Who You Are

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I don't know how to rate this book, so here's my thoughts after having read the first ~70% and skimming the rest. It has a clear concise message without over simplifying what can be a very complex issue of setting healthy boundaries. She provided many helpful analogies for why this is good practice, such as the fact that you wouldn't give just anyone the keys to your home and if people who you did trust to have the keys were using them in a way that was not intended, you would take them away.

It had such potential and if you can stomach being slammed for having reactions to abuse it might have some thoughts worth digging out, but I find enough concerning when abuse is involved that I can’t recommend.What stood out to me is how to set boundaries and be confident it is a godly/Biblical choice instead of fumbling emotionally and mentally because of trying to please everyone in my life.

Once again, Lysa does what she does best by gently guiding us through something hard that all of us will have to make decisions about—boundaries in our relationships. In my opinion, the book could've been much stronger if the author had taken more time with the book. But you're beginning to realize that if the other person doesn't want to change what's broken in the relationship, you can't change it on your own. Or, I've tried everything to fix this relationship but nothing is working—I fear I'm becoming someone I don't even like? By reframing boundaries from something that can feel limiting to something that is truly loving, this book equips us to navigate relationships in a loving, healthy, and God-honoring way.However, this is because I am not the target audience, and I am not currently in a place where I am seeking to learn what Terkuerst here is teaching. All of us say or do things that stand in opposition to qualities we would like to be true of ourselves, but that is because God is the only one who is the embodiment of any good and pure characteristic. This book was placed into my hands as my world as I knew it started to unravel and reality hit me smack in the face.

Are there any instances in which sometimes, maybe, a person's boundary is unreasonable or an overreaction? Partway through reading the book, I learned that the author was writing from the experience of her painful divorce.Good Boundaries and Goodbyes explores how people can have healthier relationships by establishing relational boundaries with their partners, family, and friends. She lumps anger in with malice bitterness and downright evil and guilts the person who doesn’t give many repeated chances to continue abuse. And it’s about communicating appropriate boundaries and parameters so that love can stay safe and sustainable. Tears of encouragement and hope for those relationships that I know will be healthier after having some hard conversations about boundaries.